Body vs. Mind

Why is it that humans seem to enjoy doing things that don’t make us feel better?

I know drinking won’t make me feel better, I know eating like shit won’t make me feel better, and I know spending money won’t make me feel better. I know that working out, eating healthy, and saving/investing in things that will improve the future will make for a better lifestyle.

Yet, it is soo much easier to let myself drink, eat like shit, and spend money instead of doing the things that will be improvements. I know I’ll feel better once I get a workout in or have a good meal, but have you ever tried getting out of bed to go to the gym? It’s fucking hard!

I can’t seem to wrap my head around it. It doesn’t make any sense. I know I’ll feel better. My body wants to be healthy, but at the same time wants to be as lazy and useless as possible. It even seems to encourage destroying itself. Although, maybe it’s a battle between the mind and the body.

The body wants to be healthy. The mind wants to destroy the body. Perhaps it’s the sign of a sick mind that needs a remedy. I suppose I’ll have to figure that one out. Time to fix the brain.

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Guaranteed

This is going to sound a little crazy, but have you ever thought about death? I mean really thought about it. Not the casual acceptance of “Yeah, I’m going to die” then skip over it, but to really think about it in detail.

It fucks with your mind. I find it to be a good way of determining what to do in some situations. It can make stressful situations seem almost laughable in the bigger scheme of things. Obviously you are going to have to do certain things you don’t want to. You can’t just think about the bigger scheme of things and say “Well, paying rent doesn’t have a massive impact on my total life, why should I pay for this rent? Lets use it to go on an adventure that I’ll remember forever, but then will have nowhere to live!”

Personally it seems to help a bit when thinking about the question “what do I really want to do with my life?” It seems like everyone my age is starting to have big things happen; buying houses, new cars, getting married, having kids. Do I really want that right now? I can’t even seem to think of things I’m actually interested in, let alone decide what I’d like to do for money for the rest of my life.

So I like to imagine myself laying on my death bed in the hospital. (Here’s to hoping as many of us as possible actually die this way instead of in some freak accident.) As I’m laying there I’m thinking about all the things that mattered in my life. Was working all those extra hours worth the money? Should I have gone on that trip I always wanted? Should I have spent less time with my family and worked more to provide a better life? Should I have tried “that thing” I wanted?

If there’s something I think I would be proud to have done when I’m about to die, I want to make sure I do that. I’m still trying to figure out what I want to do in my life. I don’t think everyone really knows everything that will make them happy about their life.

Although one thing is guaranteed… Everyone’s life comes to an end. It’s our job to make the most of it.

Fitness

You don’t have to be overweight to start working out and eating healthier.

You don’t have to be visibly out of shape to have the desire to build a stronger version of yourself.

It’s okay to want to be in better shape even though there are many others that could be considered in worse shape than you.

Other people will make excuses for you to stop taking action simply because it makes them feel like they should be doing something too. “You don’t have to change your diet or work out. Do you think you’re fat? If you’re fat what does that make me?

It doesn’t make you fat, but it doesn’t make me feel like I’m developing myself either.

You don’t wait for a person to start smoking before telling them they shouldn’t be doing it. We’re told from a young age not to smoke because it’s bad for us.

Why isn’t it the same for fitness? Is it not worth looking into until you’ve reached a point that something must be done or the consequences are too severe?

Be proactive. Develop healthy eating and fitness habits. Yes, even if others don’t consider you out of shape. I’d rather start now than wait until there are consequences if I don’t. I want to feel better, inside and out.

Don’t you?

Simple, yet hard.

I’m currently reading the book “The Obstacle Is The Way” by Ryan Holiday. I’m only 37% of the way according to my e-reader, but right at the start an important topic comes up when dealing with anything in life. Simple and difficult are different than easy and hard. Something can be simple in theory, yet hard when it comes down to actually doing it. A perfect example that almost everyone has dealt with is trying to get into at least decent physical shape. The theory of succeeding is quite simple – don’t eat like shit and get some damn exercise – but actually implementing and following those steps prove to be harder than we thought.

Any obstacle in our lives can be tackled if we take the time to really look at it, make a plan of some sort, then put that plan into action. Identifying the proper plan to overcome the obstacle can be either simple or difficult/complex. Usually the solution itself is quite simple. It is the implementation or following through on the action that we have problems sticking with. Are you in debt? Well, the solution is quite simple really… make and save more money than you currently are. See – not that hard to find the solution. How do we make more money or cut down our spending? That’s a fair bit harder for people to determine.

Just because something is hard to do doesn’t mean it’s impossible either. If you are really serious about anything chances are you will find a way to make it happen regardless of how hard it is. The fact that it may be hard doesn’t matter. Although, finding a way to go about tackling those tasks and finding your solution can make life a whole lot easier. This book has really started to open my eyes to how easy something really is when in our minds it can seem almost impossible to overcome. I recommend anyone read this book to gain a new perspective on how to go about doing things. I haven’t finished the book yet as noted, but I’ve already learnt so much.

Step up to life. Learn how to tackle issues. Make your dreams a reality. Books will empower you with knowledge to take control.

 

 

 

Goodbye Kiss

 

Sometimes there happen to be events that make you appreciate things you took for granted. Things you never noticed you really cared about until you have a shift in your mindset. A friend recently had one of those major events that can change the way you think about anything. Someone this friend knew decided that they didn’t want to be here anymore. Mental illness won.

The passing of someone you know, especially related to mental illness, can have an effect on an incredibly large amount of people. Immediate family and friends would typically have the most to think about and the biggest shift in mindset. That shift then has an effect on those they interact with. It is a domino effect of shifting mindsets.

In my case these specific shifts normally make me realise how quickly anyone’s whole world can change.When it isn’t directly related to you suddenly sunny days seem much nicer, the grass seems greener, and normal everyday things mean the world to you. This time it’s a new found appreciation for the goodbye kiss. Every day whenever Hayley and I are leaving each other for work we always make sure to kiss each other goodbye. Or at least I make sure (I get mad at her if she doesn’t wake me up to give me a kiss goodbye at 6am).

Because in the end… you never know if that goodbye kiss will be the last one.

 

 

Coming Home: The most confusing part of travel

So, what are you going to do now?

You’ve been travelling the world for more than a short period of time – more than 2 weeks. Not your “I’m going down south to drink until I black out every day and have a total of 2 sober hours” for a whole week type of trip. You had your fun and the experience of a lifetime. Coming back home could quite possibly be the most stressful time from the time you left.

While you’re out travelling no one really questions the details of your life. All that really matters is that you have enough money to live somewhere, eat, and see the things you want to see. Typical questions: What is the next place you plan on going to? Where do you want to go to eat? Do you want to go drink? Hey, want to go to the beach? Not exactly thought provoking questions.

On the other hand, once you get home the questions do a complete 180. What do you plan on doing career wise? When do you plan on getting a house? Are you guys getting married soon? Are you staying here for a while or do you plan on travelling again soon? I mean, Jesus Christ guys we just got home. Let us breathe a little bit. We’ve just been travelling for a year without even remotely thinking about these questions, let alone the answers to them. Although we don’t want to have to answer these questions typically we are fighting for the answer in our heads regardless.

Everything at home is the same… but different. I personally got back into the same job – same job, different people. Everybody is doing the same things, but at different places. People are following the typical steps; getting married, buying houses, or they’re going out every weekend just like before you left, and now… running around catching Pokemon. That doesn’t make us any different though. We come back home and fall right back into the routine of “everyday life”.

This routine is the hardest part for someone who has done a bit of travelling. You’re used to living day to day, deciding what you should do for that day or week, but definitely nothing longer. The plans change to much to even develop a plan- the true life of spontaneity. The problem becomes either trying to get back into the normal routine and be at peace with it or to just leave and travel again because it seems easier to leave.

Everybody battles internally with doubts of if we’re doing the right things. Is this the right job for me? Do I really want to be doing this? What do I like doing? Should I be going to travel and have fun or pursue a career to get ahead? I’m grateful that I’ve been able to experience what its like to travel and develop a sense of what else is possible in the world…

But to be completely honest, now that I’ve seen what the other options are… it makes the decision much harder.